Hello!
In this Illuminate series, we’ll be exploring each of the learnable competencies of the Six Seconds Emotional Intelligence Model. This is week two: Apply Consequential Thinking.
Choose what’s most true for you:
When I am triggered emotionally, I tend to:
a. fight
b。逃跑
c. freeze
d. pause, decide, then act
This week’s competency ofApply Consequential Thinkingencourages you to explore what choosing option D feels like. You will think of a current choice you need to make, then use a personal activity to explore how you want yourself and others to be affected by your choice.
照明：如何根据您真正想要的东西做出决定
Applying Consequential Thinking is all about being intentional with your actions. It’s about taking that micro-pause to stop and想想你真正想去的地方before reacting on autopilot.
The next time you make a choice, how would it feelto really know你想发生什么？
Rather than fighting, fleeing, or freezing, I invite you to take a pause with me to explore how you really want to respond to a certain situation. The chart you’ll use below will help you unravel the affects you want to make, both emotionally and rationally, based on your choice.
You’ll do this by asking yourself two simple questions:
What do I want emotionally?
and
What do I want rationally?
Find a piece of paper and a pen (or markers, crayons, colored pencils) + activate your power toapply consequential thinking…
1. Think of a current decision you want to make.If you want help considering one, you might revisit您上周确定的模式。也许这是关于工作的决定，如何应对您关心的人或财务状况。例如，我的选择是在粘性情况下如何表达我的需求。
2. Next, make your chart of what YOU want emotionally and rationally from your decision.Ask yourself: What do I want emotionally for myself and others? What do I want rationally? For example, a few of the emotions I identified for myself are: supported, unafraid, and empowered. A few of the rational outcomes I identified for myself are: express my opinions, take care of myself, and act more quickly. Make a chart for yourself like this one:
3. Time to make an intentional action.Now that you’ve explored what you want out of your decision, what action sounds the most aligned with your list?
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How did it feel to clarify the outcomes you want from your decision?
您从这项活动中获得了什么见解？您如何在“此刻”应用这种见解？
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嗨，玛丽亚，
Emotional intelligence is so important for the people I work with. These are people who grew up with one or both parents with a serious mental illness. Most of my work is based on my (easy to read) research entitled: “Lives unseen: unacknowledged trauma of non-disordered, competent Adult Children Of Parents with a Severe Mental Illness”. See:
https://minerva-access.unimelb.edu.au/handle/11343/37852
My website link shows comments from readers of my research. Scroll down for various other pages, such as “Tips”, “Grief & Loss” (includes a Japanese translation), “Tasks”, etc.
I also wrote some brief articles on grief and trauma which can be located here:https://medium.com/@suzette.misrachi(For a brief idea of what my research is about, scroll down to the first article entitled “An unacknowledged trauma: The adult legacy of growing up with a mentally ill parent”). If people click “Follow” on the above link they will get these short articles automatically (they come out only 3x per year).
I really like the ideals and the purpose of your work. Thanks for sharing.
Kind regards, Suzette