grrrr。
如何变得善良似乎很简单。但是有时候感觉不可能善良和爱心，您不觉得吗？我们对生活中发生的事件感到非常生气和沮丧，以至于我们无法进入我们内心的那个爱心。取而代之的是，当我们的拳头紧握着愤怒的想法时，我们的眼睛从一侧转向一侧。我们中的一些人甚至通过我们的演讲和行动将这些想法涌入了世界。
有时我们只是不知道该怎么办do。We have a nagging feeling that we need to be doing something, but we’re just not sure what.
发生这种情况时，我总是喜欢坐下来花点时间进行反思。我知道，当您爱一个人时，必须有一种更好的方法，即使我不太喜欢这样做，对这些感觉的最佳解毒剂也是要采取爱心。有时我只需要更多帮助 - 一些提示，想法，让我前进的事情，改变情绪。因此，我列出了87种善良和爱心的方式。因此，下次您感到卡住并且不确定如何在那一刻友善时，请检查此列表，您肯定会找到一些可以使您朝着正确方向前进的东西。
请自由分享此列表because there just can’t be too much kindness and love in the world.
如何与亲人一起做额外的善良
Even with people we know and love, acts of kindness don’t necessarily spring out of nowhere. It takes a conscious decision by us to be kind. Here are some tried and true ideas for how to be kind with those special people in our life.
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- Surprise them with an unexpected visit or phone call.
- Give them a big hug.
- Express your empathy。通常，我们可以做的最大的礼物是同理心的礼物。布雷恩·布朗（BrenéBrown）的这个简短视频在解释同情和同情之间的区别方面做得很好，以及为什么同情心如此出色。
- Give them a handwritten card or letter.
- Babysit for free.To new parents especially, this can mean the world. I have done this several times for my neighbors after the toddler went to bed. I could stay there in case the child woke up, but almost always I simply read my book on the couch and let the parents have a well-deserved break to go get a glass of wine.
- Write them a letter.
- 让他们用餐。当我的伴侣接受手术时，我感到非常瘦，我们所爱的人带来的冷冻饭确实有所不同。
- 去拜访你的父母。Tell them how much you appreciate them (or at least one thing about them you appreciate).
- 对待他们最喜欢的咖啡。
- 说“我爱你”有意义。
- Tell them how wonderful they are and how happy you are to have them in your life.
- Ask, “How can I help you?”
- 让他们喝杯茶
- 仔细听他们而不打扰
- 说：“对不起。”
- Buy them a gift from the dollar store.
- 帮助家务。
- Tell them you wish you understood.
- 带他们ibruprofen的头痛。
- Invite them to play.
- Acknowledge and respect their feelings even if you feel they are not accurate / appropriate.
- Hold their hand.
- 给他们买一块小巧克力（但如果他们在节食上没有。:-)）
- Gently wash and dress their cut/wound.
- 告诉他们您刚刚与他们在一起的一天中最好的部分。
- Let them sleep.
- 给他们喝水。
- 穿或使用他们在面前给您的礼物。
- 向自己叹息。
- 即使您必须伪造它，也要使用善良的声音。
- Listen for the feelings behind the words.
- Put chocolate chips in their pancakes.
- Visit a sick friend.
- 给他们洗个澡。
- 给一个新妈妈她自己的礼物。
- 尊重某人的愿望。
- 写爱的消息，然后把它们放在午餐中。
- 选择他们可能喜欢的书，然后将其借给朋友。
- Take the garbage out for a friend.
- 他们哭泣时抱着他们。
- Give them a chocolate bandaid.
- Invite them over for scones and clotted cream.
- Send a copy of a photo to the person in it.
- Make someone else’s bed.
- 与需要它的人分享您的知识。
- 分享您的花园中的草药。
- Share a good recipe.
Download this FREE activity to teach kids about kindness #GrowKindness
How to Be Kind with Strangers
To feel the many benefits of kindness, both internal and external, it’s not necessary to know the person at all. Sometimes acts of kindness for strangers are the most powerful kind.
- 带玫瑰到家里的某人为老人带来。或者只是为了与某人联系和交谈而去那里。
- Say please and thank you.
- Let someone go first through a door.
- 买一盒饼干并提供它们。
- 携带某人的行李。
- 拿起一些垃圾。
- Be extra polite.
- Donate your “read” books to the library.
- Buy a sandwich for the person asking for cash in front of the grocery store.
- Hold up your hand in thanks when other drivers let you through.
- Welcome new people to your neighborhood, school, club, etc. – Community is an essential part of a happy life, but it’s also something that many of us feel is missing. A simple phone call or message of welcome can really mean the difference to someone who is in a new, vulnerable situation.
- 为某人打开门。
- Buy a stranger lunch. The last time this happened to me, I was traveling in Guatemala – and it touched me very deeply.
- Put change in an expiring meter.
- 提供座位。
- Return a misplaced or lost item.
- Smile at every stranger at the mall.
- Donate your unwanted items
- 向军队发送护理包。
- 分享您的本土蔬菜。
- Pay for a strangers bridge toll.
- Write Post-It notes with encouraging messages and leave them in library books.
- Write a thank you note.
- Leave some change at the coffee machine.
- Let people through in traffic.
- Use a compost bin and recycle as much as possible.
- 承认别人对你的好意。
- Leave a tip plus another dollar.
- Pay a compliment.
- 将您的旧杂志留在候诊室。
- 志愿者。
- Buy some flowers and give them out.
- 让某人在结帐时继续前进。
- Be patient when you want to yell.
- Water someone’s drying / dying flowers.
- Let someone cut in line at the movie theater.
- Listen carefully to what someone is really passionate about.
- Ask a customer service person genuinely how they’re doing.
- Invite someone who recently moved to town for coffee.
- 要有更多的耐心和理解。
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太感谢了
谢谢你
非常感谢夫人。上帝保佑你的灵魂和你所关心的夫人。
我从来不知道可能有很多表达善良的方法。但是您的清单似乎捕获了一切。我只想说，这种善良有多种形式，并且从不限制自己，以为自己不友善。每个人都以自己的方式友善。每种行为都使这个世界变得更美好。表达您种类的另一种简单方法是加入Aidbees，这是世界上第一个您的契据至关重要的社交友善平台。它也是一个非政府组织平台，使捐赠，志愿和分享生活故事的行为变得容易。这是一个来自印度各地的30多个非政府组织的捐赠平台，他们一直致力于基层开发。用户可以自由以任何方式选择产生积极的影响。善良的故事会影响某人。 Be a changemaker and spread impact stories for good.
有价值的话。
爱这些，很高兴看到更多
感谢您的有意义的建议
anable，您的建议很棒，非常感谢，我真的很喜欢它。
阿纳贝尔，
我喜欢这个清单。只是阅读清单让我微笑。
Hope you are well.
热情
Analia
精彩的！
我的天啊
i love this
Dear Anabel
First of all, thank you so much for your sharing the list on kindness and after that I have to tell something honestly.
我今年52岁，与某些人没有良好的关系。但是考虑到您的建议后，我问自己为什么我喜欢这个？幸运的是，我找到了正确的解决方案，那就是：
Thinking and following your advice.-
我改变了生活，因此我很高兴。
Thank you again and again….
Eisa
During Saturday School my 2nd and 3rd graders came up with these: help someone up, be a friend, talk nicely, pick up trash, be responsible, use teamwork, feed pets, say “I love you” or “thank you”, help mom cook.
那些很棒！感谢您将它们添加到我们的列表劳拉。
这是小事，惊喜，意外的善良。看到别人的脸亮起来，真的感谢小事。
Acts of kindness. Great list to be posted on the fridge next to art from a customer’s child.
Cool list… Thank you so much for sharing
I also do the following –
Do some of their job
Share about my tough day
Thank you for sharing the list on kindness.1
我一直对人友善，作为回报，我受到了伤害和不尊重。人们因我的仁慈而被我理所当然……我从来不想粗鲁，但是今天我是如此粗鲁的人，我从来不想成为让我。
我知道你的感觉，亲爱的。当我们给予仁慈时，我们中的一部分也渴望得到爱。
但是除此之外，还有真正的爱，它给予并赋予并要求什么都没有回报。它允许所有生物，万物都完全像它们一样，而没有任何希望完全不同的愿望。
爱情说：“您可以像您一样！我像你一样爱你，因为你像你一样，我以任何方式都爱你。”
这是真正的爱，无条件。我们需要一些时间才能绽放出这种见解，但是这种爱是释放的。它解放了我们，绝对在我们身边。
愿您在您内心深处赋予他人和自己的爱。你是宝藏！
祝福你，祝福你。
i relly like this list
最美丽的事情之一。激发了我的友善，也列出了自己的善良清单！
我对妈妈表示仁慈，她说我有一个议程，说我假装爱她。她还说她知道她对我有负担。她是对与我的一切相反的。
Came across this post today and it’s inspired me to post a similar thing. I wish more people would do these things. A little bit of kindness goes such a long way. x
自一段时间以来，我变得如此负面，有时对自己和他人变得更加积极。有时我是如此的不耐烦和粗鲁，以至于我无法忍受。有时我什至没有注意到。当我年轻的时候，没有什么能动摇我的仁慈和积极性。从今天开始，我会尽力成为一个更好的人。也许这份清单会帮助我。非常感谢您如此友善和创造力分享此列表；）。
请让我们知道它如何实践这些想法凸轮 - 每天都是一个新的实验机会
Thank you for sharing such kind thoughts and actions. I am ashamed that I had to read your post to rekindle in me the basic principles of kindness. Unfortunately I have been plodding on blindly and directionlessly (not sure if this is a word!) in life without considering the impact of my words and actions on others.
Thank you
谢谢Naveen的开放性分享。也许关键是无方向性的状态 - 也许当您对世界上想要添加的内容有更清晰的了解时，它将在您内部创造一个燃烧的驱动器，以确保与此相符的影响。检查有关使用目的使自己对齐的文章：http://staging.6seconds.org/2012/11/11/does-purpose-affect-emotions/
Love it – especially the first one Hope to have tea with you soon Thanks again for sharing – I love the list it made me smile too – sent it out to many friends – thanks again – have a great day
感谢Anabel分享这份可爱的列表……我们可以不断增加它，并帮助使世界变得更美好……欢呼！
我称之为“活着”的善良……双关语是打算的。太感谢了。世界比什么都重要，尤其是现在
多么精彩的文章。我们常常忘记生活中的小事情如何产生最大的影响
我们有一个超过110种爱自己和其他人在私密程序中使用的方式的列表。我们挑战参与者一年每周做2次，并观察他们的生活转变。感谢您的分享 - 这里有一些想法，我们可以添加到我们的列表中！
多么美好的清单，感谢您的分享……我很想分享我的44幕名单
Care after a friend in needPray for someone when in need
Give some’s child/pet a gift
Try to understand where others are coming from
When you invite them over, make something they love
当别人邀请您在那里并且如果不能的话，请为他们弥补
Contact others during or after a major life event if you cannot be with them
Show others that you genuinely care
Share your meal/dessert/… with someone
Give sincere and polite advice/opinion if you are asked to
Show respect to other people’s loved ones
感谢/称赞朋友公开
Forgive someone
当别人最不期望的时候表现出您的好意
Take some time to help strangers when the ask for directions
Be good to other drivers
Help other shoppers
Say nice things about other people behind their back
Be nice to the doorman, the waitress or the waiter who serve you
Give affection
向人们打招呼
清理自己
给别人怀疑的好处
When you go out with a friend, offer to pay the bill
在您附近的动物上放水或食物
Play with a child
分享您的伞
Pay for the Valet parking for your friend
Complain less and appreciate more
Write your reviews so that other customers can benefit from them
Be polite on the road
Respect other people’s time and arrive on time
Buy a coworker a cup of coffee or a donut and place it on their disk with a kind note
Respect other people’s belongings and territory
Lift up someone’s spirit
每当您遇到问题时，请保持积极，不要称重别人
Help others with job opportunities
献血
Give you pen to someone who needs it
Send thank you notes or messages
Be nice to new people
分享您刚刚阅读的一本好书的标题
Bring peace wherever you are
Treat others with Integrity!
这是一个很好的清单，可以提醒我们那里有一个美丽的美丽世界
迷人的！Makes me feel more human Thank you for sharing!
阿纳贝尔，
Very loving thoughts. In fact doing this makes us get more love too!
我学会对每个人都友善的列表真是太好了。
谢谢你的分享 。
Much Love and Light to you
aisshvarya
阿纳贝尔，
I have posted these at my company and I have had nothing but smiles and yes’s
分享爱比不满要容易得多
谢谢你so much for your desire to share love
迷人的！很高兴能浏览名单：很小的事情，但产生了很大的结果。我同意他们拥有神奇的力量。我们确实需要这样的提醒。感谢Anabel的提醒。
这是如此可爱的anabel
太感谢了！这个世界上的某些人可能会让您觉得没有善良的意义，但确实需要比以往任何时候都更加善良！
选择会产生后果
awareness + action = change
positive actions result in positive changes!
是的，首选可能是（如您的公式所证明的）最重要的选择。
爱，
anabel
Greet strangers, help people pick what they mistakenly dropped on the floor, be ‘big’ enough to loose battles , let things go to those who need them more, smile at children it builds their confidence….remember to enquire about a significant life event, say happy birthday, listen to their stories, let them show you their pictures and tell you the stories behind each
Be sure to be make sure to always be kind to others and not unkind
by the way, i just noticed while tweeting this , that the URL says 75-ways. I guess you’ve outdone yourself!!!
No need to wait to be angry or stressed to use these to turn around those feelings. For me, doing them regularly keeps me happy with a sense of purpose so that I rarely get angry and stressed. Great list! #34 is my favorite (I’ll need to work on that one).
A dear friend once said, “All great teachers are really great actors.” Would you agree?
爱，
anabel
Good reminder when we forget:)
Small acts create powerful impact.
Thanks Anabel! Josh go tweeter and I would go Facebook then.
Thank you Natalie,
您的举动将有助于传播这些狭小的周到时刻。
爱，
anabel
很可爱！感谢您的Anabel分享行动！这些有时是很小的努力，但它们分享了我们的存在。
是的我同意。这些基本上等于很小的水，我希望这将成为世界各地的洪流。
爱，
anabel
感谢您的分享，Anabel - 喜欢这个！
要添加一些：
-invite a friend for a walk/hike/run outside – get lost and found in the awe all around
-bake and share (cookies, muffins, brownies, you name it!)
-compliment a stranger on a noticed kindness
-笑
嗨，凯特，
太感谢了。我将把您的确定项目添加到列表中。我设定了至少达到133的目标。
爱，
aanbel
是的，谢谢Annabel！
多么美好的清单！感谢您抽出宝贵的时间来创建和分享
Great list Anabel! I’ll add: Tweet their article. I’m going to do that now for yours!
I don’t know how to show love. I had to google how. Thank you.